Mastering Overthinking

Most conflict advice tells you to communicate better. This episode goes somewhere different. The most exhausting part of conflict is rarely the disagreement itself, it is the thought-rule underneath it that is making things feel unbearable when they are just difficult.

Overthinking feels like problem-solving. It convinces you that if you just think it through one more time, you will find the answer, but the loop does not lead to safety, it leads back to itself.